A man has to feel like the woman he desires is special, that she values herself, that her affection is not loosely given, that it is selective. A woman who demonstrates these qualities gains respect from all men, but she is a major turn on to a man seeking a mate. It activates his need to win her over and he will do whatever he is capable of to win her heart. It is a reaction in him. The harder she is to catch, the more he will value her when he does, and the greater his thrill will be in being with her. I am not saying lady’s that this is a game, do not play with their feelings, they are men of God, and are to be respeted. Just know your place as a lady of God.
If a woman does not allow a man to win her in this way, if she makes herself too easy, too available, if she is the pursuer, she might be successful in establishing a relationship with him (a woman signalling that she is available to a man is generally not rebuffed) long term relationship material. This kind of behavior we see in the world. We shouldn’t act like the world acts, we are called to be diferente in all our ways.
By chasing him, she will never have the romance and courtship she needs to develop strong emotional security with him, she will never be really sure how much he desires her, or how much he values her because he never had to prove it, he didn’t have to work for her. In his case, his sense of desiring and wanting her never got to intensify as it would have if he’d pursued her. By making herself freely available to him, by pursuing him, she has in essence cheated him of winning his prize and so it is easy for him to value her less.
Use your the time wisely to gather facts, fact 11:
11. Does he have a healthy love & acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has he made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you. A man’s relationship with God is crucial here. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal leader, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ. If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to Christ, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can’t soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive. So you decide. How much is your life worth? How much is your love worth? You will be able to accept only what you believe you deserve. God himself calculated the worth of your love and decided it was worth His life. He now pledges you His love for eternity. Yes, Jesus sets the example for all others to follow when He paid a ransom for His bride. Should you expect less from a mortal man?
What do we say “Time have change”, they where in the old times. We as Christian do not live according to the worldly ways. We live according to the word of God, in God ways; we should live life in integrity, morals, and dignity. The word of God says in 1 John 2:15-171 John 2:15-17
Spanish: Biblia Reina Valera - revisión de 1995 - RVR95
15 No améis al mundo ni las cosas que están en el mundo.ñ Si alguno ama al mundo, el amor del Padre no está en él,o 16 porque nada de lo que hay en el mundo --los deseos de la carne, los deseos de los ojos y la vanagloria de la vida--p proviene del Padre, sino del mundo. 17 Y el mundo pasa, y sus deseos, pero el que hace la voluntad de Dios permanece para siempre.
WP-Bible plugin – Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For everything in the world – the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does – comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but the man(woman) who does the will of God lives forever.
He is getting ready to get blessed big-time with you! Any relationship that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that you have to work for love, is too expensive! God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially for a woman, but also emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart and spirit, not withdrawals.
Throughout the Biblical age, men were willing to pay the cost for the hand that they desired. The truth of the matter is, everyone knows that anything worth having costs.
For anyone man or woman who is seeking the best possible outcome in romance, the odds will be stacked in their favour where he pursues and she encourages him with signals indicating that he can win.
YOU ARE ONE SPECIAL,BRILLIANT GEM, BELIEVE IT SISTER!